M.Y.O.B.

I cannot count how many times I have said this, double that number for how many times it’s been said to me. Are there times that we should mind our own business? Sure. But then there are times when we should, no, we must intervene because it’s the right thing to do. 

While at this point in my life I practice no formal religion, I am drawn to tenets from a few.

One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated-Golden Rule

Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.-UU 7th Principle

Today, during the weekly torture that I call laundry day, I witnessed something that angers me to my core. In the laundromat was a young woman, maybe 25 if that. She was wrangling 2 kids under 5 and more laundry than seemed possible for one family. Her husband/boyfriend stood there on his phone while she did this. Whatever. So the young girl asked her mom if she could get candy from the machine(kids do this, it’s normal people). The man flew into a rage! Grabbed her arm and said “I will beat you to sleep if you ask for another thing”. The mom stepped in and was told to do the f**ing laundry or she was next. Me, being the idiot I am, said “sir take a deep breath” and was told to MIND MY OWN BUSINESS

Certainly this man doesn’t know not to get my Irish up, because that was it. 

I calmly (shocking) explained that this was my business. He chose to assault his child and threaten his wife in front of me, thereby making it my business. I asked him how he would feel if that were done to him. (he’s laughing the whole time mind you). I said what could that child possibly have done to warrant such an assault? He chimed in here, and said “stop calling it an assault” to which I wisely replied, “google it sunshine, that’s the definition of assault”. He’s still laughing mind you, and says “there’s not a F**ing thing you can do, get out of here”. Now I am laughing, because he is unaware that 911 was on the line the whole time I was speaking calmly and they had triangulated my position. I am literally cracking up at this point, because I know they are on their way. He didn’t like that I was laughing, in fact he was getting angrier as I laughed. He asked what was so funny, and I quoted a favorite line from the mummy “nasty little people like you always get their comeuppance”:. As I walked out, I saw what I believe to be an undercover car pull in. 

I should not take such gratification in this, but I do. That is a flaw I shall work on. 

Whether she pressed charges or not, I don’t know. I will need to find a new laundromat. That’s cool.

What I do know is that we MUST treat others the way we want to be treated. We MUST NOT let others bring us down or hold us back. And above all we MUST, step in and help those who can’t help themselves. If we don’t we are no better than those causing the suffering. 

Blessed Be

Ladies, if you are in a situation you think you can’t get out of, there is help. Be brave if not for you for your kids. Don’t let them carry on the tradition into the next generation. Let theirs be a legacy of strength and courage. You can do this. These are resources in Allegheny and Westmoreland Counties, PA. If you are too scared, message me and I will personally help you to get there. 

http://www.alleghenycounty.us/dhs/housing/domestic-violence.aspx

http://www.blackburncenter.org/

Decisions

Everyday you and I make decisions, sometimes very hard decisions. Decisions that will positively affect those around us, and some decisions that will devastate those around us. It is never easy, and sometimes they end up being wrong.

Some of us, at least the humans among us, may lose sleep or worry sick over our decisions. We worry who and how others will get through the decisions we’ve made. We wonder, does this make me a bad human?

Sometimes others get to weigh in and affect our decisions-good or bad. Occasionally we rely solely on the advice if others, and sometimes we are pressured by the loudest among then to make our choice in their favor.

We are human, and very few of us can say that every decision we’ve ever made is right for everyone concerned.
I’d like to meet you if you have.
If you know me, you know I’m unlikely to quote the bible “he who is without sin, cast the first stone”.

(In response to a text this morning expressing myopic views that cannot take the above into account)